Flat Hair

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People often ask me the question “What made you decide to go natural?”.  My response… flat hair!  “Flat hair” is what Yasmin used to call hair that is straight.  She would tell me all the time that she did not like her hair because it was fluffy and not flat.  One Halloween Yasmin actually made a remark that she was not a real Disney princess because Disney princesses had flat hair but her hair is fluffy.  I would tell Yasmin all the time she had beautiful hair then she would just reply with “nah, I want flat hair”.

Although Yasmin did not like her own hair, she loved my straight relaxed hair. Yasmin would always say that she wished she had flat hair just like mine.  As I would watch Yasmin admire my hair I began to wonder  “how could I tell Yasmin to love her own hair when I am constantly chemically altering and using harsh heat on my own hair”.  I started to wonder did I really love my hair and what was wrong with the texture that God had given me?  At this time I began to experiment.  I stopped getting relaxers (although I relapsed a couple times).  I rocked braids, weaves, and curls.  Not everyone had positive things to say about my transition but it was something that I wanted to do for myself in hopes to show Yasmin that I truly loved myself and she should too.

A year later, I decided it was time to cut all the relaxed hair off and start fresh!  I still remember Yasmin looking at me like “wow.. she has fluffy hair too!”.  It made me feel good that I was no longer just preaching to Yasmin about self-love, but I was living it as well!


9 thoughts on “Flat Hair

  1. My hair has been natural for some years now and my daughter has been natural all her life but she begs for me to make her hair straight. She always says it is ugly and doesn’t like certain hairstyles but I tell her she’s beautiful. It is really hard to get her to see that her hair is just as beautiful as Elsa from Frozen. I recently gave her a similar alternative which is dreads. I told her that her hair would move when she turns her head (that’s what she wants and begs for).

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    1. That’s a good idea! Thankful my daughter doesn’t mention straight hair much anymore. She’s starting to like her curly hair plus she doesn’t like getting her hair done lol. The other day she was saying how cool her braids were because she could pull them up and do different stuff with them. That made me smile a little

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      1. Yeah, singles or dreads almost give the same feel as “flat hair”. Her dad has dreads so she likes the idea and I think the would like it overall. It will also give me an easy and effective way to keep her hair up. It is an amazing feeling when your child sees themselves in a whole new positive life after you’ve helped them to see.

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